How many of us have had a dialogue playing on repeat inside our heads, but we can’t seem to muster the courage to take the next step and share our thoughts with the intended person? Go ahead take 10 seconds to think about it: The first conversation that comes to your mind is the one I’m talking about.
Difficult conversations tend to be nerve-wracking and anxiety-inducing, because they involve providing constructive feedback…however they’re the ones we often want (and need) to have to make us and our direct reports more successful. (more…)
Feedback – How appropriate that the word begins with feed. Study after study indicates that employees are hungry for feedback. Conversely, a low feedback diet comes with many side effects including: Disengagement, Loss of opportunities, and the ultimate price “loss of talent”.
Framing your feedback is critical, specially if its constructive in nature. Consider following these guidelines to help get you comfortable. (more…)
Have you ever asked yourself “What is great work and am I engaged in doing it? .
Another way to get to the heart of this question might be asking yourself the following: (more…)
One of my favorite teachers in 7th grade Mr. James made the most profound statement in our Science Lab “The worst kind of fool is the one who fools him/herself”. That line just stuck with me forever, a timeless line that still tugs at me and also reminds me of the thick blue science textbook. I digress.
I often wonder when, where and how we’re fooling ourselves, what invisible scripts are we feeding ourselves? What lies are we telling ourselves? The words we choose to use, invariably become our thoughts, our thoughts turn into our stories, our stories into how we live on a daily basis. What’s fascinating and arguably so, is we’re often the most mean to none other than our own selves. We dare not speak to others the way we do to ourselves, well some do, but I digress yet again. (more…)
Self control is a challenging yet immensely rewarding trait to cultivate as a manager and a leader in your organization. This is one quality that pays dividends regardless of your title and responsibility at work.
As a manager you undoubtedly face a myriad of stressful situations on a daily basis. However, I will also say that if you think about it you usually have a good sense of the types of situations that “trigger” you into losing self-control. (Stressful meetings, missed deadlines by your teams, constructive feedback by your manager, upset client, etc). Having this first-hand knowledge of your triggers is actually beneficial as it allows us to proactively plan a response when they do arise. (more…)